Parent of trans teen seeks answers from CBE after he says bully transferred to same school

The father of a trans teenager says he's still waiting for an explanation from the Calgary Board of Education as to why a student hesays bullied his childended up at the same school theymoved tofor a fresh start.

Charles Lee says his 16-year-oldchild, Kai, was attending a junior high school in the city's northwest when the bullying started around a year-and-a-half ago.

At its worst, Lee says the bullyingsaw Kai admitted as a psychiatric inpatient at the Alberta Children's Hospital, at risk of suicide.

He says the student they say is responsible for thebullying was suspended multiple times and waseventually transferred to a differentschool.

Kai was then granted a special exemption to attend a school outside of their area.

"Thingswent really, really well. Grades were better than in the past three or four years, and Kai was really enjoying school with a good core group of friends, and it looked like the worst was behind us," Charles Lee said.

But one day, Lee saysKai's worst nightmare came true: the student theyfeared ended up at the same school.

Kai says they werealways seen as one of the kids that was different fromeveryone else. Kaisays thingsescalated once they started attending theschool's GSA (gay-straight alliance).

"I found out what transgender meant and realized that was me," said Kai. "Then the minute I publicly came out and told people I was a guy, that's when the bullying got really bad. It was a group but led by one person."

Kai says they were subjected to deadnaming, use ofa trans person'sformer name when theyno longer identifywith it.

"People would correctstudents saying 'It's a girl and this is her name,'even if they were told otherwise by me or teachers," Kai said."There were notes going around, just constant harassment and being shamed."

Kai says they were targeted over the use ofwashrooms andstruggled with gendered gym classes and sports teams, which again drew attention and led to bullying.

"They had photos of me before I transitioned, and it was constant mental torture," said Kai.

When the student Kai says was responsible for the bullying was removed from the school, it provided Kai with a big sense of relief. Butmore than a year later, Kai's discovery thatthat student was now attending the same schoolwas devastating.

"I couldn't get out of bed and I would refuse to leave the house," Kai said."The thought of even seeing him on the bus or in public was not something I could deal with."

Charles Lee says the school boardoffered to transfer Kai to a new school, but the pairfeelit should be the other student who gets transferred especially given Kai's newfound academicsuccess and happiness in a new environment.

Lee says the lack of communication and clear answers about what happened is the most frustrating part of thesituation, which he says remainsunresolved.

Lee says that when he alerted the school,he was shut down.

"To this day, all I can get is that it's been addressed but they refuse to confirm or deny if that child is there," he said."I knew they were and I had confirmation from several people, and I let them know that."

Lee says Kai doesn't feel safe returning until they know for sure that the student they say was responsible for the bullyingis no longer there.

"They assure me Kai's safe but they're not able to give us what we need," he said.

Lee saidhe hascontacted Alberta Education Minister Adriana LaGrange's office, who told him there's nothing they can do to help. He's also reached out to his MLA and themayor about the case.

He says he's now in the process of seeking a restraining order.

The Calgary Board of Eduction (CBE)released an independent review of bullying in 2019 following the death of nine-year-old Syrian newcomer Amal Alshteiwi, whose parents say was bullied relentlessly before taking her own life.

Itfound CBE regulations and practices to address bullying werefundamentally sound but that there was still work to do, especially around definitions and addressing bullying consistently.

"It dumbfounds me," Charles Lee said."We're so far behind where we should be for protecting kids. It's ridiculous."

The CBEwouldn't take part in an interview withCBCNews relating to Kai's case.

In an emailed statement, it said the board takes the safety and security of all students seriously. However, it could not comment on specific details of the situationin keeping with provincial privacy rules.

"We can, however, tell you that the family's specificconcerns have been addressed, and we are working with the family to ensure that the student feels supported to return to school as soon as possible," it said in a statement.